Comments on: How to Deal With Jealousy https://bingeeatingtherapy.com/compare-and-despair-dealing-with-envy-and-jealousy/ Help for binge eating, bulimia, obsessive dieting and body image issues Fri, 09 Feb 2024 12:53:27 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.2 By: Leora Fulvio https://bingeeatingtherapy.com/compare-and-despair-dealing-with-envy-and-jealousy/#comment-5229 Fri, 16 Sep 2011 02:39:57 +0000 http://bingeeatingtherapy.com/?p=575#comment-5229 It’s interesting that you are asking whether people can “top you” and stating that “no one compares and envy as hard as I do.” You are even comparing your comparative thinking. Often comparisons come up when you feel totally inadequate on your own. It’s important to work to build your self esteem and meet your own goals and challenges. I hope that you will reconsider therapy and keep trying until you find someone who makes sense for you. It sounds like you’re having a very hard time. I do hope that you find the right match for yourself.

]]> By: B https://bingeeatingtherapy.com/compare-and-despair-dealing-with-envy-and-jealousy/#comment-5200 Sat, 10 Sep 2011 17:18:05 +0000 http://bingeeatingtherapy.com/?p=575#comment-5200 my comparison and envy is obsessive and so deep that today i’m almost 40 and cannot control it…
i’m sure no one compare and envy as hard as i do.
and the worst part is it made me disconnect with some of my close friends.
lucky i do have a personal relationship and i even married but i feel doomed.
yes i did a lot of therapy, tried many methods, but no avail.
my envy is simple- i cannot be or talk or be happy for someone who “passes” me.
i feel like i’m nothing. i feel empty and it burns me inside so deep.
people who has – better relationship, better looking woman, or just being happy-
make me feel deeply threaten and i just cannot handle it. i rather die.
so my only solution is simply disconnecting with the envied person, just to not being consumed by the agony.
oh, and i wish they would just disappear, or die.
it’s probably very primal in my case. like a little baby.

can anyone top that? 🙂

]]> By: ashley https://bingeeatingtherapy.com/compare-and-despair-dealing-with-envy-and-jealousy/#comment-911 Thu, 05 May 2011 03:19:42 +0000 http://bingeeatingtherapy.com/?p=575#comment-911 It’s hard for me not to do this. I am constantly comparing myself to others. I often feel like if I can’t be them, then I don’t want to be anyTHING because I certainly don’t want to be me. I love fashion but I’m starting to see that I often go on fashion websites for fashion but all I do is compare myself and feel inadequate. And I have wondered why even if I negatively judge people, why I don’t feel good. When I say…oh their not this or their too much this, it still makes me feel as crap. It’s such a cycle.

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