I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It sounds really, really hard. I would definitely suggest that you bring your husband into counseling with you and tell him in a session with your therapist. You and your therapist can work through ways to discuss it with him before you bring him in, and you can process all your fears with your therapist. You might try to understand what you are afraid of. Why you are so nervous to tell him. What think might happen by telling him both negative and positive.

I’ve have an Ed since I was 17 and am now 44. I have managed to keep it a secret all these years, however, things have truly taken a turn for the worse. I have suffered from anorexia, exercise addiction, diuretics, laxatives and for the past several years bulimia. My bulimia was somewhat under control until this past year where I now have binge/purge episodes approximately 5+ per day. My teeth have eroded, heartburn, palpitations, I am pretty exhausted and suffer from some memory loss (difficult time recollecting) and the worse of it all I have put on 25 pounds in the past three months. I am out of control and have sought counselling (I told my therapist, first time ever telling anyone). My question is, how do I tell my husband? We are recently married and he has no idea. I understand in order to go into recovery I must no longer be deceitful to my husband and loved ones but it scares the hell out of me especially because I have always been known as the strong one, the person who always has it together… I’m very much afraid and do not know how I’m suppose start the conversation with my husband.

Your thoughts would be very much appreciated.

Regards,

B